Dilemma in school

What do these famous people have one thing in common: Mark Ruffalo, Patrick J. Adams, and Ed Asner?  They were bullied when they were still kids.

After watching the video of Keaton Jones, who is bullied by his classmates, they revealed of their own experiences through tweets.  “I was bullied when I was a kid,” Oscar-nominated Ruffalo wrote.

“I was bullied constantly growing up,” Adams wrote.  “I was bullied and called fat,” Asner revealed.

According to the mother, Kimberly, who posted the video, her son “was too afraid and upset to go to lunch.”  It was said that some school mates poured milk on him and he was being called “ugly for the head scars left from a tumor operation.”

Keaton wondered: “Just out of curiosity, why do they bully?  What’s the point of it?  Why do you find joy in taking innocent people and finding a way to be mean to them?  It’s not okay.  It’s not okay.  People that are different don’t need to be criticized about it.  It’s not their fault.” One writer, Adrian Simpson, who Is known in the digital world for his website, once admitted he was once bullied and he took it as a challenge to live life to the fullest not minding his detractors.

Bullying is common around the world, not only in the United States.  Dave (not his real name) used to be a consistent honor pupil when he was still in kindergarten.  Then, the family moved to a city when his father became a supervisor of the company where he is working.

It was the middle of school year and Dave, now 8, had to be transferred to a new school, a few distant away from where they are living.  It was a totally different surrounding for Dave; new classmates, new teacher, and new friends.

In the first few weeks, it was fine.  Then, something weird happened.  He felt sick in the morning.  His grades started to drop.  He had unexplained cuts or bruises.  Then, one afternoon, after arriving from school, he told his mother: “I don’t want to go to school anymore.”

Sarah was completely baffled.  When they were still in the province, Dave really liked going to school.  But now, he didn’t want to school which is just nearby.  She asked her son but he won’t say anything.

The mother instinct said there was really something wrong with her son.  No, it wasn’t about his son but something must have been done to him in order for him to be reclusive.   After doing some sleuth – asking Dave’s friends – she found out that her son was being bullied by one of his classmates, the son of the school principal.

Violence against children by their peers, in particular bullying, has received little attention in the Philippines, possibly due to the perception that bullying and fighting among children is part of school culture.  “Away bata” is the common excuse for it – it’s “normal” or “a rite of passage” for children.

“A school is a student’s second home, and assumed to be one of the safest places for children. Unfortunately, for some this is where they experience abuse,” says a statement from the United Nation’s Children Fund (UNICEF).  “Schools become the settings that expose children to violence, not just from their peers but also from teachers and school personnel.”